Comments on: Please help our family: My live in girlfriends sister need to live with us 6mos to pay debt & save money? http://www.moneydebtsolutions.com/money-debt-solutions/please-help-our-family-my-live-in-girlfriends-sister-need-to-live-with-us-6mos-to-pay-debt-save-money What to do if you have too much debt and not enough money - money and debt solutions Sat, 09 Jul 2011 11:11:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: katie http://www.moneydebtsolutions.com/money-debt-solutions/please-help-our-family-my-live-in-girlfriends-sister-need-to-live-with-us-6mos-to-pay-debt-save-money/comment-page-1#comment-100 katie Wed, 14 Jul 2010 18:31:53 +0000 http://www.moneydebtsolutions.com/money-debt-solutions/please-help-our-family-my-live-in-girlfriends-sister-need-to-live-with-us-6mos-to-pay-debt-save-money#comment-100 I would say no for the reasons you stated. Especially about the dog, it is your house after all and if you don't want a dog in it, that is your decision, not your gf's sister. Besides, if her sister isn't willing to pay 50% of everything, tell her you can't afford it. Surely there must be other relatives they can use, I mean, take advantage of, I mean live with. You don't owe her anything! I would say no for the reasons you stated. Especially about the dog, it is your house after all and if you don’t want a dog in it, that is your decision, not your gf’s sister. Besides, if her sister isn’t willing to pay 50% of everything, tell her you can’t afford it. Surely there must be other relatives they can use, I mean, take advantage of, I mean live with. You don’t owe her anything!

]]> By: lexir22 http://www.moneydebtsolutions.com/money-debt-solutions/please-help-our-family-my-live-in-girlfriends-sister-need-to-live-with-us-6mos-to-pay-debt-save-money/comment-page-1#comment-101 lexir22 Wed, 14 Jul 2010 18:31:53 +0000 http://www.moneydebtsolutions.com/money-debt-solutions/please-help-our-family-my-live-in-girlfriends-sister-need-to-live-with-us-6mos-to-pay-debt-save-money#comment-101 talk to your gf and tell her, if not talk to her sister and tell her about the dog. Also tell her she needs to help u out also. U pay for everything not your gf, if your gf paid for something then she can have an input, but since she does not then it's really up to u. U should not have to support 3 people, u got your own to take care off like just one person, not 2 people more. Step up on the situation good luck to u. talk to your gf and tell her, if not talk to her sister and tell her about the dog. Also tell her she needs to help u out also. U pay for everything not your gf, if your gf paid for something then she can have an input, but since she does not then it’s really up to u. U should not have to support 3 people, u got your own to take care off like just one person, not 2 people more. Step up on the situation good luck to u.

]]> By: BiteMe http://www.moneydebtsolutions.com/money-debt-solutions/please-help-our-family-my-live-in-girlfriends-sister-need-to-live-with-us-6mos-to-pay-debt-save-money/comment-page-1#comment-102 BiteMe Wed, 14 Jul 2010 18:31:53 +0000 http://www.moneydebtsolutions.com/money-debt-solutions/please-help-our-family-my-live-in-girlfriends-sister-need-to-live-with-us-6mos-to-pay-debt-save-money#comment-102 Don't do this. Nobody lives for free and she is NOT your family. Let her go back home to her parents place. She has a child that she is responsible for providing a home. It is NOT your obligation to provide her and her daughter with a roof,food,etc... She's totally taking advantage of you and her sister. Don't be afraid to say no and if your gf doesn't support you then you are better off warned now before you marry her. Guaranteed her sister will NOT be out of the house in 6 months. NOBODY LIVES FOR FREE. If she is divorced then she will be entitled to child support and possibly alimony. How is this your problem? If her sister is offended then so what. Her assumption that she is entitled to live free because it is advantageous to her is a crock of sh*t. Wouldn't it be just as easy for you to live off of someone else to save money? You won't do that will you? Of course not because the idea is completely ridiculous. Even welfare recipients have to pay a percentage of their HuD housing. Man up. Stand your ground. Set this boundary now. My family is welcome to live with us as long as they contribute their fair share which is usually less than they would pay if they would pay a full amount of rent. This alone is a savings. Don’t do this. Nobody lives for free and she is NOT your family. Let her go back home to her parents place. She has a child that she is responsible for providing a home. It is NOT your obligation to provide her and her daughter with a roof,food,etc…
She’s totally taking advantage of you and her sister.
Don’t be afraid to say no and if your gf doesn’t support you then you are better off warned now before you marry her. Guaranteed her sister will NOT be out of the house in 6 months.
NOBODY LIVES FOR FREE.
If she is divorced then she will be entitled to child support and possibly alimony.
How is this your problem?
If her sister is offended then so what. Her assumption that she is entitled to live free because it is advantageous to her is a crock of sh*t.
Wouldn’t it be just as easy for you to live off of someone else to save money? You won’t do that will you? Of course not because the idea is completely ridiculous. Even welfare recipients have to pay a percentage of their HuD housing.
Man up. Stand your ground. Set this boundary now.

My family is welcome to live with us as long as they contribute their fair share which is usually less than they would pay if they would pay a full amount of rent. This alone is a savings.

]]> By: I'm right and you know it :p http://www.moneydebtsolutions.com/money-debt-solutions/please-help-our-family-my-live-in-girlfriends-sister-need-to-live-with-us-6mos-to-pay-debt-save-money/comment-page-1#comment-103 I'm right and you know it :p Wed, 14 Jul 2010 18:31:53 +0000 http://www.moneydebtsolutions.com/money-debt-solutions/please-help-our-family-my-live-in-girlfriends-sister-need-to-live-with-us-6mos-to-pay-debt-save-money#comment-103 ok, I know where you are coming from but from the other side. As soon as me and my husband got married I got pregnant and a month later both my mom and my sister moved in with us for about 6 months. They finally moved out and we had our own place for about a year. Just recently my brother his wife (who we didnt know until they showed up at our door) and her daughter (she's 6) moved in with us into our small 2 bedroom apartment for the last 2 1/2 months. Having my mom live with us wasnt too bad. They helped with the bills, picked up after themselves, and realized it wasnt their house and they needed to respect that. My brothers wife however was a complete pig, stole from us, and more than doubled all of our utilities and then refused to pay for any of them. So I guess what i'm saying is you need to realize that no matter how much you like it your wifes sister needs help. Probably less finacially and more emotionally and she is scared to live on her own and is finding a reason to be by her sister. As long as she helps you out finacially (which might actually help you save some money too) and respects that it is your house and your rules (meaning ditch the dog) then you should be ok. And your wife will love you more and more for doing this for her. As my husband always said. Having your family live with us isnt to help them out, it is for you because I know it would kill you to see them struggle. Good luck! ok, I know where you are coming from but from the other side. As soon as me and my husband got married I got pregnant and a month later both my mom and my sister moved in with us for about 6 months. They finally moved out and we had our own place for about a year. Just recently my brother his wife (who we didnt know until they showed up at our door) and her daughter (she’s 6) moved in with us into our small 2 bedroom apartment for the last 2 1/2 months. Having my mom live with us wasnt too bad. They helped with the bills, picked up after themselves, and realized it wasnt their house and they needed to respect that. My brothers wife however was a complete pig, stole from us, and more than doubled all of our utilities and then refused to pay for any of them. So I guess what i’m saying is you need to realize that no matter how much you like it your wifes sister needs help. Probably less finacially and more emotionally and she is scared to live on her own and is finding a reason to be by her sister. As long as she helps you out finacially (which might actually help you save some money too) and respects that it is your house and your rules (meaning ditch the dog) then you should be ok. And your wife will love you more and more for doing this for her. As my husband always said. Having your family live with us isnt to help them out, it is for you because I know it would kill you to see them struggle. Good luck!

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